Unsure boy.....

A letter for all the women out there....

Subject- Unsure man boy.....

When a boy is unclear in his commitment to a woman, he has no idea what kind of implications it leads in the life of that woman. When he give mixed signals, showing love and loyalty one day, and disappear emotionally the next. This inconsistency is not just that he is confused or going through something —it’s about keeping you just as an option while enjoying the comfort of your presence. 

But what about that woman ?

A woman often struggles to see this for what it is. She holds on to hope, believing that someday he will realize her worth and change and perhaps give commitment. 

But, dear woman, let me tell you—someday rarely comes, and you cannot spend your life waiting for a man to step up.

That boy won't realise how much sacrifices you are doing to add him in your life, you might be compromising with your career.

You are not a project for someone to decide whether they are ready to invest in. You are not a placeholder for someone to figure out their priorities. You are a goddess, deserving of unwavering love and respect. A man who is truly ready for you will not make you question where you stand. His actions will match his words, and his commitment will be clear as day. Anything less than that is not your destiny—it’s a distraction from the life you are meant to live.

When you allow yourself to wait for someone who is unsure, you compromise your own worth. You put their indecisiveness above your peace, and that is never a fair trade. Remember, love does not thrive in uncertainty. It grows in security, respect, and mutual effort. A man who values you will not hesitate to choose you, to honor you, and to build a future with you. Anything less is not love—it’s a game, and you are far too valuable to play along.

The challenge for many women is that they confuse potential with reality. They see the good in a man and believe it will eventually surface fully. But potential is not enough. What you deserve is a partner who shows up for you every single day, not one who keeps you guessing or makes you doubt your place in their life. A man who loves you will make sure you know, not by words alone but through consistent actions.

Do not allow your hope to blind you to the truth. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to walk away from someone you love, but it is also the most empowering. When you choose yourself, you set a standard for how others should treat you. You teach the world that you will not settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. That choice is an act of love—for yourself.

To the women reading this: you are not someone’s option. You are not someone’s maybe. You are a woman of infinite value, and the right man will recognize that without hesitation. The one who is meant for you will not make you wait in confusion. He will come into your life with clarity, with purpose, and with the willingness to commit fully to you.

Stop shrinking yourself to fit into someone’s life. Stop dimming your light in the hope that they will finally see you. The right person will see you, as you are, and love every bit of it. They will not ask you to wait, to prove your worth, or to fight for their attention. They will show up, every single time, because they know what they have in you.

You are powerful beyond measure. You carry the strength of generations within you. You are not here to beg for love or to settle for crumbs of affection. You are here to live a life of purpose, surrounded by those who honor and cherish you. Do not let anyone convince you otherwise.

So, dear woman, know your worth. Love yourself fiercely and unapologetically. Walk away from anything that makes you feel less than whole. The universe is waiting to align you with the love and life you deserve, but first, you must choose yourself. Stop waiting for “one day.” Create your own day, your own happiness, and your own destiny.

A goddess does not chase. She stands firm in her power, knowing that what is meant for her will never require her to lose herself. You are that goddess. Step into your power and never settle for less than the divine love and respect that are your birthright.